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Selflessness Made Simple

by Kimani Upshur, M.Ed.

The whole culture says you first. This book says there's a better way — and it's simpler than you think. Selflessness Made Simple is the counter-cultural character book for a self-first age. Across twelve short chapters, Kimani Upshur walks you through three movements of a generous heart: See — notice people the way Jesus noticed them; Prefer — put others first in honor, love, and forgiveness; Serve — act on what you see with your hands, your wallet, and your time. From the upside-down order of Philippians 2 to the towel of John 13, from the Good Samaritan's road to the widow's two coins, from cheerful giving to seventy-seven-times forgiveness — each chapter pairs a Scripture with plain, warm teaching, three reflection questions, three concrete action steps, and a written prayer. You'll also learn the boundary the church rarely teaches: healthy selflessness is not self-erasure. Jesus rested, said no, and withdrew — and so can you. Warm, direct, and honest — never shaming, never doormat theology — this is the generosity-of-heart companion to Self-Control Made Simple (which covers restraint; this one covers giving yourself away).